Coming from a brutal and extremely neglectful home, I have learned a few lessons through reflecting and thinking. As a person who comes from a broken home, you cannot have the capacity for great kindness unless you also have the capacity for great evil. This means that a good person who is also broken is being good by choice. It is wise to never take a person like that advantage.
Growth is ugly and it hurts, so embrace the pain. No one is perfect realizing this and making efforts to change is painful, it is like forcing yourself to stand and start walking with broken legs. Over time, however, you realize your legs aren't broken even if there is something inside clicks and no excuse is good enough to stop you.
Don’t wait for tomorrow to start today. I am not a great writer or student if I didn’t start trying to teach myself how to read at 14 despite not understanding where to even start?!? I would not be writing this if I would have been too illiterate to join the military and I would probably still be homeless, stuck in a dysfunctional cycle with my family. So, start, do it even if you’re wrong and people make fun of you, even if no one backs you, even if at the moment you don’t believe you can do it start. Do it anyway.
Manipulation is proof that they don’t love you. Suppose someone is willing to twist and break you and shake the foundation of who you are by using manipulation and gaslighting. They don’t love you and all they are doing is protecting themselves. They don’t need you and will be fine if you leave in fact sometimes, we stay thinking we are going to help but all we end up doing is enabling something broken. In my family I was a tool a means to an end one I removed that from them they actually ended up making their own lives work… to be honest it hurts to know I had to leave to have it happen. They never loved me I was a tool.
Painful moments can do one of two things destroy you or if you try really hard make you stronger. It all depends on you, you aren't a victim, and you aren't owed anything no one is. Life will hurt you cut you down and break you but only if you let it.
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